REALLY TOUCHING……
DARK FUTURE OF KIDS….IN SEPARATION OF HUSBAND AND WIFE
Today at the Counseling Cell for marital dispute cases at the Women Police Station where I am one of the Panel Member for the last nine years, a very unique case was heard and settled against the wishes of parents, relatives from both sides and panel members.
The disputes between husband and wife have been settled in thousands with 70% compromise and rest of the cases in divorce, referred to court or not willing to pursue.
Both husband and wife are ethically responsible to make their marriage a success. They must have mutual regard for each other. They have to be tolerant and receptive towards each other. One cannot purchase the most precious human sentiments of love, which is unfortunately dying a slow but tragic death.
In the case which I would like to share is that husband and wife having grown up kids of 8 years boy and 7 years girl, had a dispute started from small issues to addiction.
Both were heard jointly and separately and made to sit separately to amicably decide their future keeping in mind the future of their children. Even the kids were asked who even in their tender age understood the situation and appealed for living of father and mother jointly.
Despite counseling and pressure tactics by the relatives, the couple decided for separation amicably with exchange of dowry items and cash.
In this case, wife was asking for divorce on the charge of addiction and doing no work being dependent of in-laws small income only.
The most touching was the separation of kids – brother and sister – boy with father and girl with mother. While accepting the divorce papers, I could see the gestures of brother and sister, calling each other through their eye contacts. No words to express the real feeling……. which is always a reality.
I feel that the counseling was failed against the adamant attitude of the couple and none was happy over the divorce in such a manner.
Both, seperated husband and wife were advised to take care of education of the kids and keep in touch with each other family for the sake of kids who were not willing for separation.
Really it is easy to initiate a relationship or get married but challenging to lead a successful happy married life. It takes a life-long effort to nurture matrimonial ties. Both husband and wife must show total commitment, unconditional dedication and deep sincerity towards each other especially when they have grown up kids.
The dark future of the kids was visible to all as the deadlock between husband and wife, divorce cases are on the rise in our society. Earlier only husbands deserted their wives and now even wives walk out of marriage.
